Lilly Jay, the former wife of actor Ethan Slater, has shared her thoughts on their unexpected and public breakup, which has been linked to rumors regarding Slater’s new romance with pop star Ariana Grande.

Jay, a clinical psychologist focused on women’s mental health, expressed her feelings about the divorce in a recent essay for The Cut released on Thursday.

“People enter marriage hoping it will last, much like no one boards a plane expecting it to crash. Yet, I truly never envisioned I would face divorce,” Jay reflected. “Especially not shortly after welcoming my first child and particularly not with my husband’s new relationship with a celebrity looming over us.”

Last summer, Jay and Slater made headlines amid a rumored affair involving Slater’s “Wicked” co-star Grande, following reports of their separations from their previous partners (Grande was married to Dalton Gomez). Jay commented to Page Six back then that Grande wasn’t “supportive of other women” and described her family as “collateral damage.”

Jay and Slater are parents to a son, who was about 11 months old when their separation became widely known.

“As I reflect on the shock and grief over a year after our marriage became public news, I find myself deeply missing the quiet life I had built for myself,” Jay noted in her piece.

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Even with the “unexpected public collapse” of her relationship, Jay emphasizes in her essay that she and Slater remain focused on raising their son.

“Slowly, I’ve come to appreciate that although I no longer have the life I envisioned with my high-school sweetheart, a future filled with love is ahead for me and my child,” Jay reflects. “While our relationship may have changed, our commitment to parenthood has not. We both unconditionally love our son every moment, no matter how we share parenting time.”

Jay also seemed to hint at the impact of Slater and Grande’s recent film “Wicked,” which has made over $531.3 million globally and set records for the highest-grossing opening weekend for a film adapted from a Broadway musical.

“As for me, I cherish my sunny days spent with my son,” Jay wrote. “However, days when I can’t escape the promotion of a film tied to the saddest moments of my life feel much darker.”

Reports indicate that Jay and Slater finalized their divorce in September. She concluded her essay by contemplating how her highly publicized divorce might influence her professional work, viewing the intense media scrutiny as an “opportunity” to better connect with her patients.

“Perhaps we can reframe my chaotic, not-so-private life as a way to share my own feelings of loss, anger, vulnerability, and sadness, allowing me to relate to yours,” Jay wrote. “I struggle to reconcile my profession, which supports others through the delicate and beautiful experiences of pregnancy and postpartum, with my personal upheaval.”

“But I am beginning to recognize that when I tell patients that avoiding discomfort only intensifies fear, it may be time to acknowledge that I am no longer anonymous.”